Weekend Confession 6 - Life is short! Just move on!
Weekend Confession May 9th, 2008 
It’s been a while since my last Weekend Confession. A lot of things just seem to come together. There is no doubt that life is very short. For those people who are still alive like me, we will move on in our life.
In the past few weeks, I was very busy. To be honest, I don’t really know what I was busy for. A lot of things happened in the past few weeks. I have done a lot of things in the past few weeks. None of them were making my life easier.
- One of my dear friend past away with Cancer.
- My father-in-law is sick.
- My wife went to Hong Kong to visit her father.
- I have to deal with the Auto insurance company and the diminished value appraisal for the accident I got a year ago.
- Attended local jewelry shows and met with some fashion designers.
- Working on re-arrange my finance for better return.
- I was also social too much in the past few weeks.
- I have spent so much time on the new social network site such as MOLI.com to boost traffic to my online business and made some sales.
To be honest, I was not very happy in the past few weeks. Of course, Bad thing happens. Regardless what was happening in the real life, I was not moving forward on my entrepreneur journey. Yes. I did make some progress on my online business and did get some great traffic to my online stores from MOLI. The problem is that I don’t feel any achievement. I did not update many of my blogs because I don’t feel motivated to do so.
It’s been two years since I started working as my own boss. My wife work full-time to support my dream. That makes me feel guilty. Although she is very supportive and understanding, I still don’t feel as success as some people may think. I think men with middle age crisis will feel the same way as I do now.
So forget about what I have said in the past and forget about all the weekend confession I have done. They are not helping me to move forward. I need to move on. Yes. That’s it! Let’s move on!
What I have done wrong? I know these issues have been discussed so many times. I have even suggested my blogger friends not to make the mistakes. Sadly! I just kept making the same mistakes over and over again. I need to get over with it and make changes.
- Do what people told me to do
- Not doing what I really like to do
- Not focus on what I can do the best
- Pay too much attention on getting the result
- Not react fast enough
- Force myself not to work hard
- Spend too much time dreaming about what I may become
- Too much enjoyment on what my previous hard work have done to me
- Forgot how hard I was working in the past years
That’s enough to upset myself badly. So it’s going to be a new me from now on (Not again!). No more garbage talks about working only 4 hours a week. No more inspiration talk or suggestions to my readers, while I can’t even achieve that myself. Have I made myself clear?
If you are reading this blog post, you need to think seriously about what you are reading! Don’t make the same mistakes like I do. Life is short! Let’s move on!
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May 10th, 2008 at 12:21 am
Hey Terence
I had been stopping by earlier on looking for a new post, so I was glad to see you are back again…. but I am really sad to read about what you have been going through lately, chin up!
There are always times that not everything is running as smooth as we would want them, but have you noticed that as soon as a few things get you down, more negative things will happen? Well, same goes when good things happen, we feel better and more positive things start happening;)
I think it is a good thing to focus on good things that are happening eventhough they aren´t as big as you would want them to be. Hold on to the good feeling and work on making that bigger.
I have joined a few social networks in the past, did a lot of networking with other blogs to grow mine and eventhough the experience was really one I did enjoy, the return on the time I was spending wasn´t great at all. Of course, there were some short-time results, but they would only continue as long as I spent a lot of time.
So about a month ago I stepped back from social networking and things like entrecard and the time freed up by that decision, I could spend on actions building results on the long run.
Stephan Miller made a really good analogy in one of his comments:
“Social traffic is like working a job every day. Traffic via search engines built with links is like having an investment you get interest from every day. Yes, link building pays off a lot.”
And I think he is right.
Many of us fail because we don´t get to see what type of traffic is important to our ownline businesses, we see shortterm results and think we are all doing great but in reality, there is no way to really grow our business because of the lack of time and as soon as we stop the socialnetworking, our traffic stops as well.
I am no man with midlife crisis, so maybe I can´t completely relate to how you are feeling at this moment, but I sure have had my share of moments in life where I thought I wasn´t doing the best I could or get the best out of life, and myself. I was even scared to actually do what I thought would really work, because , what if that wasn´t getting me the results I thought it would? I would have to give up on dreams and go back to a regular job working for somebody else and stop fooling myself.
However, I do believe it is possible to make a good income online, but some changes need to be made, especially having to do with positive thinking and planning, spending time on things that bring great results in the long run, building up organic traffic instead of instant shortterm successes.
Don´t feel bad if you spend time with friends and socializing, but sharish that time and fill it with positive feelings, taking those feelings back into work with a refreshed feeling of accomplisment and translate it to accomplisment in your work!
Take care my friend, I just know you will succeed!
May 10th, 2008 at 1:38 am
Just wanted to add… “life is too short” … I see that statement everywhere around me and I just don´t agree with it.
Life is the longest and most important “event” we experience, so instead of “moving on”, we better make the best of it, and get everything out of it we can!
Have a great weekend!
May 10th, 2008 at 7:44 am
Nice to have you back among us Terence. I am happy to see you blog again.
My comment on your rant? This too shall pass.
I get your message loud and clear.
All the best and hope to see more of you.
May 10th, 2008 at 8:10 pm
@Mirjam:
Not to worry! I am very positive in my life. I forget bad things pretty quick, but I often forget about the mistakes I made very quick as well. So I have to constantly remind myself not to do the same. Thank you for the long comments. I totally agree with what you and Stephan Miller said about long term investment on link building.
I don’t think I have done a good job on manging my money and time on the things I can do best. I keep forcing myself to do something that I think I do better than others do. I always believe this. If someone can, I can! For example. blog for money using affiliate program, ppc, ppa etc. I told myself that I should not give up blogging for money. So I keep spending time on it. At mean time, I also manage my own online stores. So I kind of lost focus on what I can do the best.
Well. What I can do best is to create awesome web application, help people solving their IT problems and manage IT infrastructures for corporation, which I quited doing 2 years ago.
Anyway, I will eventually find my way out. I am actually feeling this. The more I confess, the closer I am reaching my goals. I may make the same mistakes again, but I am actually making less mistakes every single days. That’s good. Isn’t it?
@Dining Tables:
I guess that you are knowing me more every single post.
By the way, I caught someone who use your “Dining Tables” to leave spam comments. It’s gone! Thank you for stopping by again!
May 11th, 2008 at 3:07 am
Great to have you back! And i am sorry that things were not going so well for you. I am sure all will be hunky dory again, keep the faith!
May 11th, 2008 at 7:48 pm
Hi Terence,
I just visited your blog - so, I’m a new reader - Hello to all!
I found your blog interesting - with lots of personal touch.
I just read that you have an awful moment in time. But you right - just move on!
Thanks for sharing
May 12th, 2008 at 6:37 am
Wow!! A lot has been going on in your life. I am sorry for the loss of you friend. I lost my best friend to cancer early last year. You just have to keep on pressing on despite all that life throws at you. With the way that I know you (from your blogs) you will rise above it all and beat it.
May 13th, 2008 at 1:53 am
Terence,
Great to have you back.
I hope life is not bogging you down.You know we are all in the same boat. All I can say is , keep going. You are doing good.
Bless,
Hersh
May 13th, 2008 at 9:57 am
Sounds like you’ve had a tough time lately. I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers! I’m very sorry about your friend and I hope your father-in-law gets better soon!
May 14th, 2008 at 7:11 am
Terence,
You seem to be down to earth and very honest guy. That’s a great virtue in itself. We all have our share of frustrations and failures. We learn from those failures and move on to higher sate of consciousness. I’ve recently written an article that may interests you.
http://www.successsoul.com/2008/05/09/5-axioms-of-life-a-pathway-to-happiness/
I’ve subscribed to your blog. Please keep working hard. 4HWW is a daydream. There is no substitute for dreaming and then working hard to achieve those dreams.
Shilpan
May 16th, 2008 at 3:51 am
I hope things turn around for you Terence. Your good attitude is an inspiration to the rest of us, so keep thinking positive thoughts. Send me an email if I can help with anything…
May 16th, 2008 at 12:05 pm
Terence, do not beat yourself up. These things happen in life that make us sit back, and take stock in what is really important in our lives and what we really need to be doing. Learn from this , as it sounds like you are, and move on!
Chin up, and best wishes!
May 16th, 2008 at 3:18 pm
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May 16th, 2008 at 3:24 pm
Thank you all for being such great supporters!
I am doing fine. I kept my positive thinking and will definitely move on for a long journey. Life is not easy, but it’s not that difficult either. I am sure we will all find our way out in our life.
It’s time to back on my track to do some posts that can help me and anyone to become a great entrepreneurs! Shall we?